Updated: Aug 21, 2021
We too frequently become adept at pointing out our flaws and identifying failures. We need to become equally adept at citing our achievements. We have to be willing to say to ourselves, I’m on the right road. I’m doing OK. I’m succeeding.
How do we change our mindset from fault-finding and uninspiring to one that’s positive and motivating? Here are three ways to stay motivated:
1. Create a New Positive Habit; So what is a habit? The dictionary tells me this;
a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. "he has an annoying habit of interrupting me" Similar: practice, custom, pattern, routine, style, convention, policy, wont, way, manner, mode, norm, tradition, matter of course, rule, usage.....etc, etc
a long, loose garment worn by a member of a religious order. "nuns in long brown habits, black veils, and sandals"
Let's face it, I for one have a number of habits, unlike the nuns, mine are more like; my morning routine, how I fold clothes and what I tend to cook on a regular 'habitual' basis. Also those not so good ones, like the sneaky glass of red of an evening. This used to be occasionally during the week and I have found during this lockdown it has snuck in far too often.
My New Habit is to not drink during the week and to do 30 minutes of Pilates /Yoga every evening instead.
2. Be Kind to Yourself and others; In this time where we are all experiencing some kind of restrictions due to COVID. It's often really hard to maintain the motivation to exercise, be positive all the time and stay on top of everything that is going on.
Take time out - Be kind to you. Take a walk in the sun. Sit on a rock or in the bush and just be. Be present to that moment in time and let the rest of the 'stuff' in your head go quiet. It will always just try and be in your head, acknowledge it and tell it that you are not listening right now.
If you are a little like me, or some others I have spoken to. It's OK to feel stuck.
I have had to rely on some of my other tools to reset because sometimes I need to be gentle on myself. I’ve gone back to some journalling, some short guided meditations, pilates and sitting in a quiet place by the ocean.
This made me feel a little less stuck and got me to a place where I was able to feel a renewed energy.
The point of this is to remind us all that we need loads of tools in our tool box to help us manage our mental health. Sometimes the usual tools aren’t available to us - because literally we’re in lockdown or mentally we can’t get there.
Try something else, try something new. Most importantly, be kind to yourself and to others
3. Set up a dynamic daily routine.
Getting into a positive routine or groove, instead of a negative rut, will help you become more effective. Why is the train the most energy efficient means of transportation? Because it runs on a track.
Think of the order in your day, instead of the routine. Order is not sameness, neatness or everything exactly in its place. Order is not taking on more than you can manage, without still being able to do what you really choose. Order is the opposite of complication; it’s simplification. Order is not wasting a lot of time trying to find things. Order is avoiding a lot of recriminations because you didn’t do something you promised. Order is setting an agenda with others so neither of you is disappointed. Order is doing in a day what you set out to do. Order frees you up. Get into the swing of a healthy, daily routine and discover how much more control you’ll gain in your life.